Does life become hard and heavy when we are not being true to ourselves?

I was on FaceTime with one of my besties the other day while I was getting my gel refill done, the nail salon was pretty empty so the whole place was definitely hearing our convo, well at least what I was saying.

I was sharing with her how there are moments when life feels so heavy and hard that one can’t help but crave a different life but then there are times when life is just easy and you feel fully yourself….you know what I am talking about?

I had to sit and reflect on why. What is the difference between those times and how do I end up at the weird heavy place? As I looked at my past and reflected on those hard moments I noticed that the common denominator was how unaligned I was with a specific pillar in my life; Authenticity. I was not being true to myself.

I noticed that each time life felt heavy and hard, I was doing things that deep down I didn’t want to do but felt like I had to do or should do. And every time I stopped doing those “things” I felt liberated and unstoppable. Why is that? Why do we end up doing things we don’t want to do?

* BELIEFS enters chat*

I look back at my previous marriage (relationships are my favorite place to learn about myself) I held on to that WAYYYY longer than I had to because of my beliefs. I believed it was hard to find another partner, I believed since I was married I should fight for the relationship to work although it was draining me emotionally, mentally, and physically and I could go on and on. Our beliefs are what determines what we are available for.

Where in your life do things feel hard or heavy? What’s that thing that if you were to just tweeze it out like an ingrown hair would change so much for you? If something pops into your mind rn, it is probably a good place to start.

It is our responsibility as humans but most importantly for women to be authentic. It is so important to do things you want to do and not do things you don’t want to do. Following your happiness is our only life purpose. You owe it to yourself to know what makes you happy right now and not be afraid to go for it.

I promise future you will thank you.