Doing it for the plot
As a health coach for years and a woman who had a fucked up relationship with food and lost 30lbs, I learned that motivation isn’t going to get you to where you want to go buttttt it can light a fire under your ass which in my opinion might be the most important part.
As I enter a new era (self-proclaimed new era of course) I always seek that little push, almost like a permission slip to go all in. I always refer to my dating life for inspo because in so many ways I did so much risk-taking that paid off that it has now become an important landmark in my journey. It was the time I adopted the saying “Do it for the plot”. That to me means doing the uncomfortable. Picking the option that feels the scariest but also feels soooo right. I have learned that 9/10 times that is usually the best one.
After a month back into the dating scene after divorcing my husband at the time I took a vow to just not give af and put myself out there.
Being out of the dating scene for so long and then jumping back into that hell hole was such a slap in the face. It’s like I was the new kid at school and just didn’t understand the flow. The last time I was single I was 20 so after 7 years I was 27 in age but my approach to dating was 20-year-old me whose standards were rooted in insecurities and who was more worried that the guy was cute instead of how emotionally intelligent, available, and capable he was.
In order for me to break free from my old ways I had to do things that were uncomfortable like go on dates with people I normally wouldn’t, not be as nice as I normally was, and become that “inconvenient girl”.
My point: Do shit that will make you shit your pants. It will help you grow in so many ways.
Check out my most recent podcast episode to hear more tips on how to start taking risks and doing it for the plot.